We’ve updated our Terms of Use to reflect our new entity name and address. You can review the changes here.
We’ve updated our Terms of Use. You can review the changes here.

Courage to Feel

by Encian Pastel and Ri Molnár

/
  • Streaming + Download

    Includes high-quality download in MP3, FLAC and more. Paying supporters also get unlimited streaming via the free Bandcamp app.

    Bonus track when you download entire album!

    Special thanks to Linda Moody on guitars and vocals in "courage to feel," El Beh on cello and vocals in "courage to feel" and bonus track, and Benjamin Pastel on percussion in "courage to feel," "i wanted to play," and "sit and breathe." Visit our website for printable lyric and chord sheets! WE ENCOURAGE SING-A-LONGS!! www.couragetofeel.wordpress.com <3
    Purchasable with gift card

      name your price

     

1.
I came into school today With a smile on my face, I was ready to play With my new best friend, I’d been thinking ‘bout them Since Friday Well, when / I saw them come in That little smile of mine stretched into a grin And my eyes lit up like the eyes of a pup When you give her a treat of meat at her feet [chorus] I said Hey Hey Hey, are you ready to play? I got So many ideas today and I can-not wait to play them out with you-ou-ou Wait a minute! Why are you just walking past me? Hey, I’m talking to you! [did you see that? My friend just ignored me! What should I do? Should I try again?] Well I decide I’m going to try again I walk Up to my friend, I say, “Hey friend! Uh... How was your weekend? My friend says “Good.” “Well, do you want to play?” “No thanks.” [chorus] My heart said, “Hey hey, I wanted to play! I had So many ideas today So many different ways our games could go-o-o But my friend said “no.” Well remember that smile when I came in? The edges dropped down to my chin And my top lip quivered and some lines appeared Between my eyebrows I was not happy, I was not happy I was not happy, I was not happy I was not happy I was not happy What should I do now? I got a question for you... Is it my friend’s job to make me happy again? Is it okay for my friend to say “no”? Do you think that means my friend will never ever play with me again? [chorus] Hey hey hey, I wanted to play, I had So many ideas today! But now all my ideas have gone away-ay-ay Because my friend said no. So I decided I’m never going to ask anyone to play ever again! That’s a good plan, right? Well, what do you think I should do? Should I ask them why they don’t want to play? So I say, “Hey friend, you don’t wanna play Is there a reason? It’s okay to say.” And my friend says “Yeah, you always make up the games. And I wanna say what I play today! On my own Like when I’m at home. [oh. Hmm. I’ll have to think about that. I’m not happy, but...] I tell myself that I’m okay and I can give my friend some space ‘cuz Friendship is not a race, it’s a long slow path of give and take Maybe there’s something I can do To make my friend feel important too And maybe it’s not always up to me To make the rules of our jamberry [chorus] I said, “Hey hey, I want to play! I know you got So many ideas today! And when you’re ready, I’ll be ready to-o-o! To play them with you!
2.
Sit and breathe Sit and breathe Talka talka talka talka talka talk it out! *repeat I’m running through the park My feet sail over grass The sun warm on my neck Then Eyal steals my hat! I get SO MAD! My blood starts a-broiling! My fist starts a-coiling! I’m this close to boiling! [Wait! Don’t do it!] A voice in my head said. Do I really wanna hurt this kid? No way! Heck no! That’s bad for my soul! [But what should I do instead?] *give time for kids to answer [chorus] Sit and breathe Sit and breathe Talka talka talka talka talka talk it out! *repeat Drinking OJ from my cup My gram says, “Hurry up!” Forget to tie my shoe Get to school in a mood. [All I want to do is play with my favorite train Choo Choo, but Ri has it! I get SO MAD!] [Wait! Don’t do it!] A voice in my head said. Do I really wanna hurt this kid? No way! Heck no! That’s bad for my soul! [But what should I do instead?] *give time for kids to answer Sit and breathe Sit and breathe Talka talka talka talka talka talk it out!
3.
4.
left out 04:20
Left out. Everybody had a friend to play with, everybody had a friend but me. 2X So I crawled through a tunnel and I found sammie! Samy Sammy Samie the terrestrial snail! And I said, "I feel left out. What's that about? Are you left out? What's that about?" And sami said, "Are people playing a game? I didn't even know! I was just taking a stroll see how I go-- SOOOOO SLOW--yeah, beautiful." Then the teacher said, "Line up! Boys here, girls there!" Everybody had a line to stand in, everybody had a line but me. 2X So I stayed the tunnel and I found sammie. Sami Sammi Sammmie the terrestrial snail. And I said, "I feel left out. What's that about? Are you left out? What's that about?" And sammie said, "In my world, there's no boys or girls. We're each a boy and girl and everything. We're just snails. with tails." "yeah, beautiful." Then the teacher said, "Time to dance! Everybody find a partner!" Everybody had a partner to dance with. Everybody had a partner but me! 2X So i went back to the tunnel and I found samie, Saami, Sammy the terrestrial snail. And I said, "I feel left out. What's that about? Are you left out? What's that about?" and sammi said, "Snails don't dance in pairs like birds in the air. When we do the stroll we go solo. See how I go soooooloooooo?" "Yeah, beautiful." So i watched Sammy go, and the grass began to grow. Soooooo sloowwww... yeah, beautiful. So I went back to the class in front of everybody, in front of all the kids who had a friend but me and I said, "And I said, "I feel left out. What's that about? I feel left out! Let's talk it ouuuut!"
5.
Jesse’s Friend Jesse is a friend Yeah they’ve always been a good friend of mine. But lately something’s changed and it ain’t hard to define Jesse’s got themself a new friend and I’m falling behind. And they’re playing with googly eyes! And they’re eating cupcakes, I just know it. And they’re telling ghost stories late late at night... You know I wish that I was Jesse’s friend The one and only Jesse’s friend Whatever happened to my best friend? Now they’re playing charades I say, “Jesse, come hopscotch with me instead!” Jesse doesn’t even answer, they’re still miming silently. I just want it to be us two, but I guess it could be three... [spoken] So I ask them, “Can I join you?” Now we’re playing with googly eyes! And we’re eating cupcakes, they’re so yummy. And we’re telling ghost stories late late at night... Now I’m happy that they’re both my friends So so happy that they’re both my friends Sometimes it’s hard but we work it out! Yeah they’re both my friends So so happy that they’re both my friends When one is sick there’s still another friend! Yeah, we’re all friends.
6.
7.
Courage to Feel Well, I felt very brave at the doctor’s When they gave me a shot in my arm I felt braver still when I walked up to a goat and fed her chard at the petting farm And I felt very brave at my school When I talked in front of the class I felt braver still when I said “No!” to a hug from somebody who did not even ask! Well I wanted to tell you I love you But I’m worried that you’ll only laugh I know I got to be brave To say how I feel But it’s so easy to hide The feelings inside It takes so mu--u--u--uch.... Courage to feel! [Chorus:] [My heart is strong, I can cry when something’s wrong My heart is light, I can laugh in delight] x2 I have so mu--u--u--uch... Courage to feel! Well I feel so alone when my brother Reads his books instead of playing with me I just can’t say how I feel—It’s like my tongue’s a broken wheel So I tell no one I just watch TV! And sometimes I feel so rejected When I’m not the one who is picked When I got a feeling so strong It’s hard to tell you what’s wrong Yeah it takes so mu--u--u--uch... Courage to feel! [Chorus:] [My heart is strong, I can cry when something’s wrong My heart is light, I can laugh in delight] x2 I have so mu--u--u--uch... Courage to feel! Yeah it takes COURAGE to feel But I can SAY how I feel Or I can SIGN how I feel And I can DRAW how I feel And I can PAINT how I feel I can make in CLAY how I feel And I can MOVE how I feel Yeah, I can DANCE how I feel And I can WRITE how I feel Make up a STORY ‘bout how I feel Write a whole BOOK about how I feel Make a TV SHOW about how I feel Bake a CAKE about how I feel Knit a SCARF about how I feel Write a SONG about how I feel And sing that SONG about how I feel And then you’ll KNOW how I feel Yes you will KNOW how I feel And you can tell ME about how YOU feel Yeah you can SHOW me how YOU feel But it takes COURAGE to feel Yeah it takes COURAGE to feel [chorus:] [My heart is strong, I can cry when something’s wrong My heart is light, I can laugh in delight] x2 I have so mu--u--u--uch... Courage to feel! Courage to feel! Courage, courage x3 I have so mu--u--u--uch... Courage to feel!

about

We offer you this album directly from our hearts. We wanted to create songs that reflect the emotional realities of the children in our lives while at the same time offer them a chance to think through different moments of conflict that arise in their day to days. "I wanted to play" cultivates children's empathy and ability to hear "no" from peers--a crucial aspect of practicing successful consent. "Sit & breathe" prompts creative brainstorming for self-management and emotional self-regulation in moments of anger. In "left out" a child experiencing social isolation (in part due to the gender binary) finds solace in nature, building resilience and self-empowerment to make change in their world. "Jesse's friend" explores feelings of jealousy and loss in a friendship triangle with an uplifting resolution. Our title track, "courage to feel," brings together diverse musical talent to celebrate the challenges and rewards of developing emotion intelligence!

Neither of us consider ourselves professional musicians or come from a music background, but we believe it's important to make music with children. If we can do it, you can too! Visit our website for printable lyric and chord sheets: couragetofeel.wordpress.com <3

credits

released February 5, 2018

Special thanks to Linda Moody on guitars and vocals in "courage to feel," El Beh on cello and vocals in "courage to feel" and bonus track, and Benjamin Pastel on percussion in "courage to feel," "i wanted to play," and "sit and breathe."

license

all rights reserved

tags

about

Encian Pastel and Ri Molnár Oakland, California

Encian is a preschool teacher and Ri is an expressive arts educator who are both childcare activists: people who center children & parents in liberation movements! We have created this album as a resource for radical childcare providers, parents, caregivers, educators and anyone who values emotional intelligence. A percentage of proceeds benefit BACC: www.bayareachildcarecollective.org ... more

contact / help

Contact Encian Pastel and Ri Molnár

Streaming and
Download help

Report this album or account

If you like Encian Pastel and Ri Molnár, you may also like: